What is it about some people, that they can't even try to accept others? Is it insecurity? Or is it just that they don't take the time to figure out what's inside them, so they certainly wouldn't take the time to figure out what's inside somebody else? Perish the thought.
I was out to dinner with some people last night, and at the restaurant where we were eating, there is a rather effeminate man who works behind the counter. He's worked there for quite a while, and most times people just kind of go about their business, and don't (apparently) think too much about him. Last night, one guy started going off on some thing about "oh, don't go in the bathroom while he's in there, he might attack you, make sure you cover up your ass." So ok, here's this guy, and he's not a man's man. He could be a transperson, he could be a gay man, or he may even be a straight man, who happens to be rather femme. A few others joined in on trashing this guy, and I sat there stunned, and had no idea what to say. All I could eventually manage was "grow up."
When I finally woke up this morning, the things I should have said were swirling around in my head. After all, they were trashing me too - I'm "different". How many girls do they know who go around attacking people? How many gay men do they know who attack others? I'd wager heavily that most of the time it's just the opposite - women and gay men being attacked, because they're weaker, or "different", or for some other unknown (and equally irrational and invalid) reason. Being a man does not mean that, because you may have power over somebody else, that you need to demonstrate that power to destroy somebody else, to rape, beat, or kill them. It means, rather, that with the power you have, simply because of the way western society works, you have to use that power to help the unempowered. Power is a lot like love; there's a whole bunch of it to go around, and giving up some of it doesn't mean that you have less. Giving someone else a little of your own power does not necessarily diminish the giver, but rather it means that everyone can be uplifted.
I'd also wager that none of them have spent even a second trying to think what it must be like for somebody else. I was so angry; I wanted to rage at them, and make them feel stupid, since they apparently like to wallow in their ignorance. I wanted them to realize just how difficult being "different" is, to make them understand what it means to, say, spend a year of your life trying to decide whether or not to kill yourself. What situation in anyone's life would make them desperate enough to think that ending it would be the best option? Dear reader, I hope you can think about that for a little while.
The world is a big place, and there are a lot of people who are different, some are just different from you, others are different from a lot of other people. Is it so difficult to enlarge one's worldview to encompass what exists in reality?
I'm real. I'm here. I exist. I'm not going away any time soon.
I'm just getting started.
We are just getting started.
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